Category Archives: thoughts

05/09/2017

You Are Better Than This

Today I caught myself thinking of all the times someone let me down and I reacted by letting them down in return. I recalled every time I did not want to help someone because I once needed them and they refused to help me.

That is so wrong. But we all do that.

I’m not saying we do that all the time. But I’m pretty sure we do that once in awhile, everyone does. And why?
I understand not wanting to help someone if the person is asking you a huge favor when they couldn’t help you when you needed a huge favor. What I don’t understand is: why wouldn’t we help people when we can actually do it?

Not everyone can help everyone all the time. Sometimes we don’t understand why someone couldn’t help us with such a small thing that we asked, but we forget that this person has a life and they might be going through a hard time. “Oh, but why didn’t they tell me they were going through a hard time?”. You know, people are not supposed to tell us everything about their lives when they don’t feel like doing it. And that’s when the respect for limits starts.

We are not in position to judge anyone, even though we do that. Yes, you do. I do, too. It is normal. But when you catch yourself judging someone can you stop and think why you’re doing that? We won’t be able to think that EVERY time we start judging, but if we practice we might be able to reduce the amount of time we spent judging people.

I’m saying that because part of why we can’t understand when people can’t help us is because we judge them. We don’t know what is happening to them and we imagine a million reasons why they refused to help or ignored us, and I bet all of the reasons we imagined are probably bad.

So, next time you can help someone that asked for your help why don’t you just do it? Let’s practice not carrying a grudge for more than 30 minutes. That’s also when meditation┬áreally helps. Try and think the best of people, fight the urge of thinking the worst.
But, of course, have the discernment to know when to run!

Love,
Nicole.

24/08/2017

Meditation for Beginners | Mind-Body Awareness

When I started meditating and doing yoga at home I felt way better about the world around me, I felt like I had more control over my emotions and over my life in general.

Starting your morning well can lead you to be more active, focused and to have more energy throughout the day. When I meditate first thing in the morning I feel like I have my ideas in the right place, and things that would normally frustrate me or make me feel any bad emotions don’t affect me as much. I think that’s how it works for me because when I close my eyes and take deep breaths I think about everything good that I have in my life. I think about my husband, my family, my house, how lucky I am for having an education that many people can’t have, how safe I feel at home, how my hobbies make me feel good etc. You start your day being so grateful for all the good things that you won’t let small bad things bother you.

At least try. Not everything works for everyone, but if you never try you will never know. I used to think of meditation as being stupid (I swear!) and something that only Monks would do. I was so ignorant when it comes to this. When I decided to try it for the first time I realized how wrong I was. Working your mind to be healthier will never be a stupid thing to do. Taking 5 minutes of your day to think of everything you appreciate should be a rule. It is for me now.

One really good app that I’ve been using is Simple Habit. They have the free and the premium versions, I’ve been using only the free version so far and it’s enough for me for now.

That’s how the app looks like on iOS. You don’t need anything else. You don’t need a mat, you don’t even need this app, to be honest. All you need is some silence and an open mind.
The app helps a lot, especially if you are a beginner like me :) you can download it on iOS or Android.

If you like it tell your friends about it, it is SO important for everyone to know themselves and live life aware of their mind and body. I hope this post was useful to you :)

Love,
Nicole.